Everyone has their product that they swear by, mine is Ancient Cosmetics Dry Double Butter. The older I become the more my skin changes and one of those changes includes dry skin. It definitely doesn’t help that I live in a dry climate like Southern California. My skin regiment includes exfoliating my skin every other day, followed by my Aveeno moisturizing face wash bar, and Aveeno body lotion right after. I have had this regiment since I was sixteen years old and with my sensitive skin, this regiment seemed to work. I am not that sixteen-year-old girl anymore. Recently I noticed that my regiment is leaving my skin drier than usual. I don’t like putting oily products on my skin so searching for another product has always been a challenge for me. I am very skeptical about new skincare products to use. Aveeno is great for sensitive skin but I needed something a bit stronger so I came across Ancient Cosmetics Dry Skin Double Butter.
The first few days after using this product was a noticeable difference. In addition to Aveeno, I used the Ancient Cosmetics Double Butter for my struggle areas for dry skin such as elbows, upper arms, feet, hands, and backside. This amazing body butter never leaves my skin feeling oily or like I have product residue on my skin. After a few hours of applying the Double Butter, my skin still feels soft and moisturized even after I wash my hands. If you don’t get into a nail shop for a pedicure like myself, this product is perfect for you during flip flop season. Every night I scrub the bottoms of my feet with a pumice stone in the shower, then apply lotion when I get out and my feet are usually dry and are visibly flaky before I leave my house, but with the Ancient Cosmetics Double Butter my feet don’t feel or look dry, and they are actually improving. Although I have been using this body butter on myself I thought I'd try this product on my daughter.
My daughter suffers from eczema that has gotten better over the years but she still occasionally has her flair up moments a few times a year. Her skin can get so dry and therefore itchy that she will at times begin to bleed. I decided to try my Ancient Cosmetics Double Butter
on the back of her right thigh during one of her flairs instead of the normal hydrocortisone and in two days her eczema, her itching, and her inflammation began to disappear. There are so many products that we have tried for her eczema and the products that actually help her skin are so expensive and do not come in large enough quantities. This Body Butter is not only affordable but I don’t need to use a lot of butter because it spreads fairly well.
This is the first product from Ancient Cosmetics that I used and definitely intend on discovering all that they have to offer. The ingredients are natural and don’t contain anything that I can’t pronounce it only contains Shea Butter, Cocoa Butter, Coconut Oil. If you suffer from dry, sensitive skin like me, I definitely recommend you add the Ancient Cosmetics Double Butter in your skincare routine you won't be disappointed!
My dating life was so much easier before I had my daughter. I went on dates whenever I wanted to, my standards weren’t that great, I let my dates come to my house, and if I being honest at times I dated multiple people at the same time sometimes out of sheer boredom. Post child dating is completely different. I don’t bring people I date to my house, I can't just go on dates whenever I want and I don't date out of boredom anymore. Dating as a single parent in the digital age can be extremely difficult so here are just a few tips that may help your dating life.
Let Him Know Upfront You Have Children at the Beginning
I personally went back and forth with this before the first date I went on post my Ex, and after realizing how silly it was I decided to tell him before our first date. Most people are accepting of the fact that we have kids mainly for the fact they know that most of us are more or less responsible and caring. On the downside to that, they know your time is limited. If they are not understanding the fact that we have children, move on to the next they were not worth your time.
I can have the best conversations and have a great connection with someone than with no explanation, they ghost me. The first few times I felt confused, hurt, and frustrated, but it's so common these days that if they actually stuck around it would be a surprise. I cannot think of a single person that hasn't been ghosted, and when this happens, having thick skin can be extremely beneficial. Having children gives us an upper hand on being mentally stronger than most so if this happens to you, do not blame yourself. If they were not brave enough to tell us why then we will take no blame in their faults.
Children Come First
This one is a no brainer for most of us parents but there are people out there that do not like that idea of coming second in a relationship. I had a friend (who is also a mother) get upset because the man she once dated constantly put his daughter before anyone. I distinctly recall her confessing that she was jealous of her boyfriend's 2-year-old. Although that relationship was doomed from the start, letting the person your dating know from the start that they will always come second to our children will set their expectations at the beginning.
Discuss Meeting The Children When Both Parties are Ready
I know people who let their kids meet every single person they give their number to. Personally, I do not like the idea of me having multiple men in and out of my daughter’s life, but to each their own. We just need to ask ourselves; why the rush? Why are we in such a rush for our kids to meet the new love interest? Take your time, enjoy each other's company before taking on the kids. If both parties are in agreeance and discuss what you both are ready to meet the kids then you make that decision to do what you feel is best for them.
Talk To Your Kids Before They Meet Your New Partner
Whether this is the first time bringing a new love interest around your kids or 10th time bringing someone new around your kids, talk to them first. Prepare them for the upcoming change. When I and an ex-boyfriend became serious, and after our meeting, each other's kids talk, I had a long talk with my daughter who was 5 at the time. It was the first time she had realized Mommy and Daddy were not getting back together even though her father was engaged to be married. She wasn’t sad or upset she was more excited, and when she met him she was prepared.
Dating is no easy task with children or without. The difference is with us single parents our decisions not only affect ourselves but our kids as well. Our children will be there for the rest of our lives, people come and go.
So, Why not Joshua Tree is what I can honestly say now!
Are you like me, and is envious of your friends and other people seeing them go on these trips to god knows where and wonder how they can afford to do these things and still eat, pay bills, or just simply live? Even saving money to go on vacation is hard. There are so many of us that love the idea of traveling but don't possess the financial means to do so. Personally, I’ve always wanted to go to Tahiti in the French Polynesian for years. The crystal blue water, villa resorts over the clear blue water, and the island Locals look so inviting. But, after seeing airline ticket prices I realized that Tahiti will remain a distant dream for me for the time being. In the meantime, life will afford me the comfort of traveling locally.
Mini vacations or Mini-cations can be much more beneficial in so many other ways opposed to going away on a vacation. If you live in a state that is a vacation destination all in itself, you have many options available. Me living so close to the ocean, I decided to go to the desert to Joshua Tree with my bestie for his birthday, and before you turn your nose up at the idea of a hot dry desert in the middle of July here are some amazing reasons why everyone should go to Joshua Tree at least once just hear me out!
It's Cost Effective!
Depending on where you travel and what time of year, plane tickets with the associated fees can get really expensive. Don't let me get started with the airports and all the headaches affiliated with air travel. Joshua Tree is about a two and a half-hour drive from Southern California and all you need is an air-conditioned vehicle and some good music. Once you get out of the cities and into the rural areas the landscape is beautiful.
The Aesthetic Airbnb's
The low costing Airbnb we chose was perfect, it was genuinely an oasis in the desert. There were a few places we could have chosen, but our place had central air conditioning, fire pit out back and a killer album collection. We did not spend more than $150 each for the whole trip, with food included. During the day we explored the house and at night we sat out under the stars next to a fire pit while listening to Fleetwood mac, and old school albums and drinking cocktails. The place we stayed can be found on Airbnb's site Hi-fi homestead.
Silence and Nature
Whether you're like me and enjoy your silence or like my best friend who enjoys the noise, you will appreciate just getting away from the city, even if it's just for a day. With the noise of the city, I know at times life is so loud that we do not have time to think or be alone with our thoughts and nature. Once the sun begins to set, Joshua Tree is perfect for just getting away to mentally detox and enjoy the sounds of nature.
Starlit Night Sky
I was raised in a small city in Kern County and I definitely have had the pleasure of marveling at the beautiful night sky, I just forgot how the sky is supposed to look after living in the city. Everyone should have the pleasure of seeing a city-light free sky at least once in their lifetime to see the endless sky at night you can truly appreciate our world and place in the universe.
Joshua Tree’s Attractions
Although we did not do too much exploring during the day due to the 109-degree weather, the Joshua Tree National park is extraordinary once the sun began to set. The different types of cacti and wildflowers make the desert look majestic and not so bland and dry. The park is nothing short of empty, having hundreds of native animals it’s amazing how they have learned to adapt in such dry conditions. Because of the park’s beauty in the day as well as the night, visitors are allowed to stay all night if need be. You can find the visitor center hours at Joshua tree visiting hours.
Nearby Outdoor Attractions
Just a short 20 min drive away in Palm Springs is the Palm Springs Aerial Tramway. This tramway is the world’s largest rotating tram car that travels two miles up to the top of Mount San Jacinto State Park. It is definitely something that everyone should experience at least once. I'm not going to lie when I tell you that I wasn't scared to death traveling two miles to the top of a mountain in a rotating glass tram, but when I saw that small kids and older people were going up I got the courage to do it sweaty palms and all. The views on the top of the mountain are indescribable. The experience can only be described as peaceful, especially once you see the breathtaking views of the world at the top. You see what seems hundreds of miles away and the sky is endless up there. Although at the bottom of the mountain it was a 111-degree desert, at the top there was a cool 84-degree forest which made our hike bearable.
I was actually surprised by the fun we had in those two days in the desert. Joshua Tree in July surpassed my expectations. We even stopped at a local casino for brunch. I have only driven through the desert cities never stopping to enjoy the view. Although Joshua Tree may look boring, I'm sure you can find your oasis in the desert.