It seems like when I was in grade school I had everything figured out for my future. I had a career in mind, purchase my first condo by 25 and live it up like Carrie Bradshaw in Sex in the City. Well, as a millenial i can attest that in the digital age dating fucking sucks. I will say that there are a few scenarios in real life that are very similar to Sex in the City, in fact i can relate to Sex and the City now in my thirties than 15 years ago. Typically dating intels : meet a great guy, you go on a few dates, you guys have amazing sex then, HE GHOSTS you (vanishes).This has happened to me literally more times than I can could count.
I know I was naive in my twenties, and took everyones word at face value. Maybe its because im from a small town and didnt have "big city" thick skin, but I use to find myself genuinely being hurt and haunted by men who I thought were perfect who Ghosted me.In 2019 if you want to find people to date you use online dating sites, and just like 2010, ghosting still occurs. I, myself have used Plenty of Fish, OKcupid, and Coffee Meets Bagel. I've observed that dating online is similar to fishing with a shitty hook. You cast your line, catch a good lookin fish and just when you think you can reel him in to take him home, he slips away and you're left thinking that you don't know what the hell you're doing or second guessing yourself. You have so many questions, and sometimes you feel pissed cause that fish had so much potential. So you try again maybe even attempt to change it up and use bait this time cast your line once more.
Although I still get ghosted, unlike twentysomething-Lisa thirtysomething-Lisa has thicker skin. I no longer second guess myself. I have come to a realization that no matter how great our dates were, no matter how fantastic our conversations were, and no matter how great the sex is, it’s not me. OR maybe it is me, maybe it's not BUT seeing how they ghosted me, I'm not a mind reader I hold no blame in our short-lived relationship.